Buffalo and WNY Birth Photography at Sister's Hospital | The Hornbuckle's Birth Story

One of the things I love most about birth photography is how unique every birthing experience is. Whether you're a first time parent or it's your third time around, every labor and delivery is different, and the stories – and little humans – that come of it are truly priceless.

Back in February, the Hornbuckles welcomed their very first child into this world! As sometimes happens, their birth story went differently than they had hoped, but through it all they had the most amazing support system with the staff at Sister's Hospital and most of all, from their dearest family members. Both the sets of grandparents-to-be, and mom's supportive aunt, cousin (and also best friend), and Nani waited with them at the hospital throughout the bulk of the labor, taking turns checking in and offering encouragement along the way. But I have to say, dad – as you'll see in the photos to come – was such a pillar of strength and support for mom throughout the entire lengthy labor she had. He deserves a medal for dad of the year, 1,000%.

I had the fortunate experience of being with the Hornbuckles to document their labor and delivery over the span of 2 days – plus a bonus extra day – and loved reliving this time with them as I was selecting favorites for this post. I make no apologies for how long this post is, and hope you stick with me through to the end. It's so worth it.

With one of my birth story offerings, I also offer next day coverage. So if you're looking for photos with loved ones meeting baby, or posed photos of your little one, this is something that can absolutely be added to your birth story coverage. Here are a few from my next day with the Hornbuckles!


First-hand feedback from the Hornbuckles about their birth photography experience:

Did you have any hesitations having your labor & delivery photographed, and if so, what were those hesitations? Brian and I had a few hesitations at first about being photographed during birth, because never having been through it before as first time parents, its hard to know what we'd be comfortable with in the delivery room, and sharing photos via your blog is a little scary, as well! But our desire for photos far outweighed the fear of sharing something so personal, and we KNEW you'd be very discreet and easy to work with!

Why was having your baby's birth photographed important to you? Having our baby's birth photographed was important to us because it is one of the most special days of our lives. Bringing a child into the world for the first time is special and I personally knew I'd want to relive the experience, whether good or bad, afterward. I had a feeling I'd be a little distracted (just giving birth, no big deal!) during the whole process and might miss certain things, like the weighing of the baby, etc. After carrying a baby for almost 10 months and going through labor, I knew I'd be sad if I missed seeing my baby's first few minutes of life!

How would you describe your thoughts/reactions to your photos? When I saw the photos, I cried! Because of the medication I had to be on during the labor, I was groggy and didn't remember a LOT of the labor and delivery. I was not expecting to be so out of it the whole time, so I am especially grateful for the photos! Not only of Levi, but the photos of my husband with me and taking care of me are precious. 

If you have another baby, would you want birth photography services again or would you recommend me to others? If we have another baby, I would love to have you there to capture the process. I would definitely recommend you to others. You have such a passion and talent for photography, and you are amazing to work with. I'll never forget when the nurse asked you to hold my leg while I was pushing so she could step away, and you immediately put your camera down and held my leg during a contraction! You are both brave and kind!

What does having the photos of your labor & delivery mean to you? The photos mean the world to me! Seeing the whole labor process from an outside perspective was really cool and helped me remember parts that were hazy from medication. I did not expect to be on such serious medication and never imagined my labor and delivery going the way it did. The photos of my son being born are so special, because I could not see straight from the medication. I love looking at them now and they will always be special to me!

Bonus answer: Thank you for taking the time to take photos the next day with our family and friends! It was great to get photos of the grandparents with their first grandchild, and the photos of our son wrapped in his blanket are priceless to us. I was personally grateful to have you back the following day, as I was able to get freshened up and was more alert and myself.  Thank you for each and every photo!

 

WNY Birth Photographer at Buffalo Midwifery Services | The Arena Family

While I have now photographed many hospital births, this visual story I'm about to share is to date, still my only non-hospital birth, but it was probably one of the most amazing experiences I've ever had the chance to photograph. Last April (I can't believe it's taken me a year to make this post!) the Arenas called me when they were on their way to their birthing location, Buffalo Midwifery Services, and I met them there upon their arrival since they had just a touch longer drive than I did. Within minutes of our arrival, their third child – a beautiful baby girl – entered this world. After their daughter was born, mom was able to hold on to her baby and breastfeed for a bit with the umbilical chord still attached. As soon as they felt ready to go home, they packed up their things and their newest baby, and headed on their way!

After such an amazing experience with the Arenas at the Buffalo Midwifery Services, I would absolutely love to be a part of more natural births, whether at home, at the Midwifery Services location on Summer St, or at any of the Birthing Center locations in WNY or Rochester. So as a special offer for the next 3 non-hospital births to book photography services with me, I will be providing a discounted rate for birth photography services. If you are interested or know someone who may be interested in this incredible opportunity, drop me a line on my inquire page.

P.S. The women at Buffalo Midwifery Services are phenomenal with all they do to help moms bring their babies into this world. Eileen Stewart and her assistant, LuAnn, were inspiring to watch during the Arena's Birth Story, and I cannot wait to work with them again! If you're looking for more information on their services, check out their website here.

Being Photographed: First-Hand Thoughts on the Birth Photography Experience

A year ago today, I was in a hospital delivery room with Wendy and Brandon as they anxiously awaited the arrival of their 3rd child. I've known Wendy since Junior year of college and she was one of the first of my friends to get married and also one of the first to become a mother. It's been an incredible journey seeing how our lives have changed from being young 20-somethings just finding our way in life, to 30-something year old adults with husbands, houses, children (or in my case, a dog), and lives so much more grown up due to the experiences had over the past decade.

The birth of their son, Nathan (one year ago today!), was the first birth I ever photographed, and the experience sparked a passion in me that I don't think I could ever put into words. It's such a personal experience, and whether or not couples want their story shared publicly, I have a deep desire to share their birth stories with them through photographs, especially since when you're in the middle of bringing a life into the world, it's really hard to process it all.

I recently asked my past birth couples for feedback on their personal birth photography experience, and I thought today would be a good day to share Wendy's first-hand feedback as a mom in the delivery room being photographed:

Did you have any hesitations having your labor & delivery photographed?

I had extreme reservations. Not only had I never let anyone other than my husband be in the room - no aunts/sisters, mothers/grandmothers - but you had never seen a birth or done this sort of thing before. I nervous to have you see me in such a vulnerable state with all my lady parts out to see but also was scared I would somehow scare you into never wanting to give birth or have children. Over and over again, I pondered asking you to do this for me but I wanted to make sure you would not feel uncomfortable as we were about to get real up close and personal, but also I wanted to make sure you would go in knowing that it's all worth it. Having a child is a love like no other and all the pregnancy woes and labor pains are truly a labor of love and the minute you set eyes on that child and hear them cry, all the pain/all the uncomfortable exposure no longer matters. You could care less you sees your lady parts or how that person judges you. It's a love so great that time stands still and you and that baby are the only ones present. So in the end, the hesitations went right out the window and I am so incredibly thankful you agreed and experienced this life changing moment with me.

Why was having your baby's birth photographed important to you?

This is going to be a hard one to explain. And only other bereaved parents will understand. My reasons for having Nathan's birth photographed go way beyond capturing a beautiful life moment. To be completely blunt and honest, I feared I would lose him too. Once a parent looses a child they will ALWAYS in their subconscious fear feeling that pain again. I said it during my pregnancy all the time...I lost the innocent of pregnancy. I knew the reality that this baby might die also. And while I didn't want to believe it and tried to push the terrible thought out of my head, a part of me had to prepare my heart to feel that pain, because I knew the reality that sometimes babies die. So, I knew this birth would be emotional because it would be joy mixed with pain and fear mixed with acceptance and I knew it would feel all too familiar and reminiscent for the child I no longer could hold. I worried Nathan would look like Liam. I worried he would always feel in the shadow of his brother. I feared seeing him would make me remember and feared seeing him would make me forget. I wanted to have these emotions and moments captured and I wanted it to be something sacred and cherished. And I wanted it to know that I would have these photos to remember a really joyful and incredibly hard time in my life. 

How would you describe the experience of having me in the room with you throughout the waiting and delivery process?

You were a fantastic distraction. A wonderful support and friend. We laughed. We joked. I wouldn't have anyone else there. You were perfect and I cherish our friendship even more after this experience. 

How would you describe your initial thoughts/reactions after receiving your photos?

I cried. With gratitude. With love. With joy and pain. I was blown away by how talented you are - Oh how I envy your talent and your creative eye. I was overjoyed and excited yet somber and reserved. This was something very sacred to me yet I was excited to share.

What does having the photos of your labor & delivery mean to you?

It's hard to put into words what these photos mean to me. They mean the world. I hold such gratitude and love in my heart that these moments were captured. My only wish is that I had them for my other two as well. I am especially emotional over them right now as it's been one year and my little baby it now turning to toddler-hood and becoming more independent. They bring joy and sorrow to my heart but in a way that is my new normal. With every joy there is also sadness. I will never feel whole again. A part of me will always be missing and I will always feel a void. But I have learned how to let color back into my life. How to let joy and sorrow live together in a place of give and take and togetherness. Something I wish no one else would ever have to learn.